Repeat after me: Breakups will never be easy. They’re confusing, hurtful, lonely, empty, infuriating, and aren’t the same for any two people. No matter how many times you experience cutting ties with a significant other, it never becomes easier. The person you spent countless hours with watching horrible late-night TV, sharing intimate moments, and exchanging secrets that you wouldn’t even tell your mother is no longer playing the role they once did, and you need to figure out where to take it from there. So this post is going to help you make your life easier. “Eat, sleep, and breathe it, rehearse and repeat it” as we present Top 10 Breakup Rules to follow without any fail!
After you get over the immediate shock, it’s important to remember that you will make it through the feelings that set in afterwards. Breakups will never be easy, but the clarity that comes from them will prove to be more beneficial than knowing how to deal with the initial fallout.
Top 10 Breakup Rules to Follow Without Fail!
No two relationships are exactly the same, which means every breakup is different, but when it comes to picking up the pieces, there are some helpful tools that remain constant. So sit back and scroll through the breakup rules!
1. No drunk texting
Do you want to get drunk? Do it. Do you want to text while you’re drunk? You can do that too. Just don’t text your ex. Drunk texts are by far the very worst thing you can do, especially if they have already moved on and had a new partner. The last person they want to hear from is you. Don’t torment yourself like that. Please leave them alone.
2. Don’t fall for the “I still want to be friends” line
The idea that you and an ex can still remain friends is incredibly enticing and may seem like the mature thing to do but here’s the problem: when someone says they want to stay friends, it’s typically to soften the blow. What you’ll come to realize is that when you’re suggesting plans, your ex will probably give you a dodgy excuse and it’ll just upset you even more. You need to give yourself time to adjust to being on your own and there is nothing wrong with that.
3. No begging
This includes drunk texting. Do not beg your partner to take you back and don’t listen to them beg you to come back. you should never have to beg anyone for anything, ever. Keep in mind, as well, that if the break up happened because of something someone did, that something will never go away and will be brought up in conversation all the time. Let it go.
4. Stop Bashing
If the reason for the breakup is because things aren’t working anymore, then don’t turn to insults to get some kind of point across. Instead, try your hardest to stay composed and speak your mind honestly. You will feel so much better after the heat of the moment, and you won’t be nearly as regretful if you were to have fired off a nasty comment.
5. Don’t tell too many people
Choose the people you want to divulge the details to wisely. You’re already feeling confused and your judgement shouldn’t be clouded by the opinions of those who have no clue what they’re talking about it. Tell a friend that is honest and will be supportive of you and your decisions, and who won’t judge you no matter the outcome of the situation. So often we tell people the intricacies of a breakup and don’t realize that their unsolicited opinions just make us feel worse than we would simply keeping it to ourselves.
6. Don’t date their friends.
This is just so wrong. If you are doing it only to get back at them, then you are just an evil selfish person. Please don’t do that. Who are you hurting? The unsuspecting friend who doesn’t know you are using them for evil. Don’t use people. It’s wrong.
7. Break up sex is not a good idea
It only hurts. More than you are already hurting. Don’t have break up sex. It only leads to broken hearts and more days spent crying and longing for them. No contact, no drunk texts, no SEX!
8. DO NOT THROW SHADE ON SOCIAL MEDIA
This one is self-explanatory. Just don’t do it.
9. Rebound rules
Rebounding is tricky and completely dependent on the kind of person you are. Here’s how you’ll know if you’re ready to take the plunge: If your only goal is to make out with someone because you think it’ll make things better, then please do not rebound. It will only set you 10 steps back. If the idea isn’t taking up all of your brain space and you find yourself in the situation that you can be romantic with someone, then go for it. You deserve it! Nobody can tell you what you can and can’t do when it comes to your own happiness.
10. Forgive and forget – It’s not a game of revenge!
Ok maybe the forget part won’t be so easy, and neither will the forgiving but in order to move on in peace, you must forgive. It’s mandatory. I get what they did was absolutely horrible and they should be hung by their toenails. I get it. But reliving their heinous crime over and over in your mind isn’t going to help you get over them. Forgive and move on.
Woah! Those were some rules to keep in mind. However, no matter what kind of breakup you’re going through, be mindful about seeking revenge. It is never the answer. It’s the risk we take when entering a relationship and you can’t let a rocky ending get the best of you. But remember, standing up for yourself isn’t the same as seeking revenge. If you’re in a situation where you need to be strong and speak up for yourself, don’t even hesitate.