Yeah, Breakups are hard, but what we need to understand is that “BREAK UP is just a phase and it is TEMPORARY”. There might be a lot of questions bugging you during this phase. Especially, the ones like how to move on after a breakup when you are still in love; how to feel good about being single; or why you should be happy after a breakup at all. But like they say, “Life is a travelogue of good and bad experiences”. Since we do not always have a clue when things can go wrong or we don’t have a ready remedy at hand to fix all the problems in our life, it is the perfect time to introspect and “let go” of things that we cannot redress. On the other hand, bad circumstances bring in the most loathsome gifts of anxiety and agony. In such situations, it’s important we seek ways elucidating how to be happy single after a breakup so that we can support ourselves in the course of the experiences that awaits us.
How to be Happy Single after a Breakup?
Being Single does not mean that you don’t know anything about love or are weak. It simply means that you are strong enough to wait for what you deserve rather than being in commitments of false relationships.
So, stop worrying about how to stay positive after breakup, because these remedies are going to help you overcome the pain of heartbreak.
Wondering, how to feel happy again after a breakup?
Go ahead and scroll through some of the amazing tips unraveling how to be happy single after a breakup.
1. “Me” Time
It often happens that after a hard day’s work we feel that we have lost ourselves somewhere and just sitting on our favorite couch with a large cushion on our lap and that feeling of reclaiming brings so much of calmness and delight which is beyond words.
There are few easy ways by which we can reclaim that inner “Me” by packing our backpack and sneaking out on a solo tour and declutter our mind. Likewise, enjoy Silent home-stays in isolated valleys or coasts is a perfect way to connect with your inner-being and be in sync with our natural flow of energy. Solo trips always help us to know about those sides of our life which we have neglected or overlooked. It activates the inner dialogue which is very conducive to our mental health and overall clarity.
2. Break Up and Tea Lovers
A wild bush native to China took the entire world in its awe because of its amazing properties and variety of tastes that it has become the drink of billions of people on the earth, “Thanks!” to the British Imperialism. Tea has been the focus of attention in ancient Daoism and Buddhism too. Tea brought clarity to the mind and the presence of a comfortable amount of caffeine helped the monks to stay vigilant during long hours of meditation and so it has been the always an imperial gift in ancient China, Tibet, and Japan.
Though many varieties of tea are consumed all over the world, however, few scores better for their amazing health befitting properties. Few notable teas are:-
- Jasmine Tea
A bed of fresh hand-picked jasmine buds is laid on the midnight and a layer of finest tea covers it and is kept till the dawn arrives so that the fragrance of unopened flower buds gets infused in the process thereby making the tea very rich in anti-oxidants.
This wonderful creation by the excellent “Tea doctors” during Ming dynasty (1368-1644) is a natural anti-depressant and detoxifier.It helps the mind to stay in balance and also aids in weight loss due to our erratic eating habits during tough times.
- Chamomile Infusion
According to ancient teaching, the stomach is said to be the seat of the mind and when it gets upset when we tend to feel mood swings and cloudy mental state and vice-versa. Naturopaths suggest an infusion made by fresh or dried Chamomile flowers soothes the stomach and guts, restores our digestion(which is often upset due to stress and other bad eating habits) and calm the nerves and help us to get a proper sleep.
- Sip Matcha to get a Zen Mind
A dark-green tea powder made in Japan which can be added to smoothies, ice-creams or simply made into a hot tea makes our mind calm as if we are in some kind of a post-meditative state. The presence of higher amounts of Chlorophyll in the tea makes it a potent remedy to feel very relaxed like Zen masters!
3. Break Up and Nature Lovers
Nature has been always associated with beauty and healing and we all crave to see a beautiful sunrise or wake up to the sun-kissed greens all around us. Nature always has been a symbol of patience and endurance to the poets, philosophers or aimless vagabonds. The charm of nature always fills us with new life and joy.
To boost our mood we can bring home some fancy green plants which are also considered auspicious according to Fengshui or take a morning or evening strolls in parks. What can be better than a tree-hugging exercise? Even metaphysics supports the idea that trees are the store-house cosmic energies which brings a sense of calmness and balance to the hugger.
Like trees, water also plays an important part in uplifting our mood and it is of no coincidence that our body has 70% of water in it. The free-flowing nature of the fluid teaches us about feeling “Let Go” during despair. Just by dipping our feet in the flowing water and watching the fishes scurrying around brings joy and relief.
Often times we are so stuck in living roles and behaving maturely that we almost disconnect ourselves from the child that is hidden within us which wants to run freely on open pastures and forget about the world.
It has been a proven fact that music activates both the hemispheres of the brain and brings a sense of “Euphoria” when we are down mentally.
And what can be better than playing Beethoven classics and cascading symphony from Mozart’s collection to soothe our nerves? Enjoy free-spirited dances with lively Hawaiian Country Music and listen to specially designed binaural beats for an awesome repose.
We don’t need to be hard with ourselves every time, do we? While certain things get out of control but all is not lost. We can always pamper our own self to reclaim that charm of ours which we have been neglecting for some time.
While an exotic fragrance from a favorite brand can be delightful, flaunting ourselves in bright sexy outfits boosts up the mood and gets few awestruck stares too which we anyway cannot miss!
Spend some part of your day in getting a good massage followed by fragrance bath as Aromas have that magical element in them which has seduced everyone till date.
Use Citrus Aromas in Tea and as a blend of diffusers to feel the sense of lightness and peace.
6. Celebrate Your Health Post Breakup
“ Health is like MONEY, we never have a true idea of its value until we LOSE IT.” – Josh Billings
Since we have already wreaked havoc in our system with all over-thinking, stress and bad eating habits we can take a break from this unhealthy vicious cycle and Smile Often which will make our facial muscles feel better and release more happy hormones.
Try to fast once a week to cleanse the system and let our body restore to its natural balanced state. We should eat light and incorporate Superfoods (like Chia seeds, Goji berries etc) into our diet.
An attitude of gratefulness always pushes our self-created narrow boundaries to see beyond and appreciate what all beautiful things we still have in hand.
7. Best Ways to Realize our Mistakes
A conflict is best resolved when we are truthful to ourselves and own up our mistakes by keeping our “EGO” aside. And the best way to realize is by “Shunning Self-denial” followed by a clear introspection and analyzing the situation that when and why did it go wrong?
Attacks and counter attacks, or simply called “BLAME GAME” never takes us far and always sours a relationship, even post break-up it can fill us up with remorse, guilt, vengeance and what not. If things have ended we should root out the negative feelings too which will at least bring peace by taking away our focus from our not so happy past and over-thinking.
8. Art of Acceptance and Clarity
“ CLARITY affords FOCUS”
Often times we feel that the whole world has turned around us and every door to happiness is shut on our very face and this should be a warning bell that we should rather change the way we think to get some Clarity or accept damnation.
To get a clear picture of the events and our life as a whole we need to first accept the situation and things EXACTLY the way they are.
This action takes away our focus to correct things which we cannot under the given circumstances. So try and make efforts to accept both the good and the worst, even when we cannot accept at least accept the fact that we have made a move.
We should try to assess ourselves by identifying our vulnerable and stronger side and be at peace. If we’re confused or in a hangman situation just accept it and have patience. And always remember that sometimes solutions are not at hand because they are meant to be that way and “LET GO!”.
Eventually, in the infinite sky of Life surrounded by a pal of darkness, Sun will surely make its way through.
When things do not work certain way even putting effort we can always add some magic to it and the ancient pseudoscience of Fengshui can be of great help.
Fengshui believes that five elements( wood, fire, earth metal and water) can influence a person’s life and any disharmony between these elements in the close vicinity of a person can upset the Chi or the vital energy flow.
It’s better to call a Fengshui expert home and seek his help to find out the correct Chi balance for our home and also know more about our personality traits according to Chinese Zodiac and apply the antidotes.
Some simple ways to increase the Chi are first, by keeping the home always clean and removing clutter from shelves, balconies, and corners. Keep only the things that we need and make the house spacious so that air can swiftly pass. Keep green plants and open windows to get fresh air and sunlight daily. Light incenses and keep colorful paintings.
Encourage positive thoughts after breakup
We all know we are strong enough to deal with our issues, it’s just the panic of walking alone as we get accustomed to enjoying the support and give up our individual freedom when we are in love. We hope the remedies will certainly help you define ways of how to be happy single after a breakup. However, we should always keep our heads high as relationships are not always about compromises it about two people in the mode of exploration and admiration of each other’s individuality.
Contrinuted by Arnab Haldar