Breakups are never easy. They are different for every person and are confusing, painful, lonely, empty, and enraging. No matter how often you have to break up with a significant partner, it never gets any easier. The person with whom you spent many hours watching awful late-night television, sharing private moments, and discussing secrets you wouldn’t even tell your mother is no longer playing the role they once did. Therefore, you need to figure out where to take it from there. This blog is going to help you make your life easier.
Although a breakup is never easy, the clarity that follows the initial shock will be more beneficial than knowing how to handle it. You must remember that you will get through the emotions that follow afterwards.
Here are 10 Breakup Rules to Follow:
All relationships are different, which means every breakup is different, but when it comes to picking up the pieces, some helpful tools remain the same. So sit back and scroll through the breakup rules!
1. No drunk texting
Do you want to get drunk? Do it. Do you want to text while you’re drunk? You can do that too. Just don’t text your ex-partner. Drunk texts are the worst things you can do, especially if they have already moved on and have a new partner. The last person they want to hear from is you. Don’t torment yourself like that. Please leave them alone.
2. Don’t fall for the “I still want to be friends” line.
The idea that you and an ex-partner can remain friends is incredibly enticing and may seem mature, but here’s the problem: when someone says they want to stay friends, it’s typically to soften the blow. You’ll realise that when you’re suggesting plans, your ex will probably give you a dodgy excuse, which will upset you even more. It’s completely fine to take time to adjust to being alone again.
3. do not Beg for them to come back
This includes drunk texting. Do not beg your partner to take you back, and don’t listen to their pleas for you to come back. You should never have to beg anyone for anything, ever. Keep in mind, as well, that if the breakup happened because of something someone did, that something will never go away and will be brought up in conversation all the time. Let it go because life is about moving on.
4. Stay Composed
It is better to remain composed and express your thoughts honestly if the relationship has ended because things are no longer working. If you’re enraged, express yourself with restraint rather than with insults. You will feel much better after the fury has died, and you will not be nearly as sorry if you said something nasty.
5. Do Not Spread the Word Widely
Choose wisely with whom you want to share the breakup details. You’re already feeling confused, and your judgment shouldn’t be clouded by the opinions of those who don’t know what they’re talking about. Tell a friend who is honest and will be supportive of your decisions and won’t judge you no matter what the situation is. We so often tell people the intricacies of a breakup and don’t realise that their unsolicited opinions make us feel worse than we would keep to ourselves.
6. Don’t date their friends.
This is just so wrong. If you are doing it only to get back at them, you are just an evil, selfish person. Please don’t do that or even think of it. Who are you hurting? The unsuspecting friend who doesn’t know you are using them for evil. Don’t use people. It’s wrong.
7. Breakup sex is not a good idea
It only hurts more than you are already hurting. Don’t have breakup sex. It only leads to broken hearts and more days spent crying and longing for them. No contact, no drunk texts, no SEX!
8. No Contact Rule
This one goes out to all the heartbroken people out there. We understand that you probably feel extremely sad and confused at this point, and you might want to talk to your ex-partner about everything. However, no matter how tempting it is, avoid contacting them at all costs. When you break up with someone, you need to make it clear that you are no longer interested in them by removing all communication forms.
Whether blocking your ex-partner on social media or deleting their contact information from your phone, you must completely avoid all forms of communication with them. This might feel very extreme, but it’s an important step in moving on and letting go. Avoiding communication with your ex-partner will help you remove them from your life and give you the time and space you need to heal and move on.
9. Rebound rules
Rebounds can be tricky, and they depend entirely on who you are as a person. Here’s how you’ll know if you’re ready to take the plunge. Don’t do it if you want to get with someone because you believe it will improve things. You’ll just set yourself back a few steps. If you’re thinking about doing something other than getting with someone, you should do it. You deserve to be happy; no one can tell you what you can and cannot do.
10. Forgive and forget – It’s not a game of revenge!
Okay, maybe the forget part won’t be easy, and neither will the forgiving, but to move on in peace, you must forgive. It’s mandatory. I understand what they did was horrible, and karma should get them back. I get it. But reliving their heinous crimes over and over in your mind isn’t going to help you get over them. Forgive and move on.
Woah! Those were some rules to keep in mind. No matter what type of breakup you’re experiencing, seeking revenge is never the answer. It’s the risk we take when entering into a relationship, and you can’t let a rocky ending get the best of you. Remember, standing up for yourself doesn’t mean seeking vengeance. If you need to be strong and express yourself, don’t hesitate.