10 Coffee Date Tips

Have you been texting them for a couple of weeks now, or even if you are meeting them for the first time? Coffee dates are the best and safest as they are not that formal or informal. They come in between and come off as being very casual and friendly. But if you are nervous and looking forward to the first date, here are some tips that might save you from embarrassment and save you.

10 Coffee Date Tips:

1. Dress to impress

It is always said that what you wear should keep up with the occasion. Just because a coffee date is something casual, you can’t show up in your PJs. Looking presentable is very important. For men, it can be something as simple as a shirt or a t-shirt, preferably with denim. For women, a pair of jeans or trousers with a cute top and minimal but tidy makeup would do the trick. But whatever you choose to wear, make sure you are comfortable with that.


2. The “right day” of the week

It is always important to plan a date on the correct day. Fundamentally, it is the day when both of you are free. Next, it should be a day when you aren’t working. Imagine going on a date on a Monday afternoon; all you can talk about is how much you have throughout the week, which can quite piss off the other person. However, going on a date on a day like Friday or Saturday would be just great as it is the start of the weekend, and you can pull it off being cool.

3. Keep your phone off

When you are on a date, especially the first date, it is very important to indulge in the conversation with the person completely and listen to them, as you can get to know each other very well. Constantly being on the phone, texting, updating status on social media, or taking selfies can annoy a person to a whole new level. It also comes off as you being careless and insensitive. So, avoid that; even if it is an important call, keep your phone aside till the date gets over, and then you are free to use it.

4. Don’t be late

It is your first date, and the worst you could do is be late. Being late on the fifth or something above that can be reasonable, but not on the first date. It is not appreciated if you make someone wait for the first date, even if your reason is justified and the other person understands. Therefore, don’t forget to leave home at least 10 minutes early.

5. Be Modest

While talking about oneself, talking unpretentiously is crucial. It doesn’t mean that you have less respect for a person; it just means that there is so much for a person to know about you, and it can’t all be judged on the first date itself. Touching on that, it is important for the person on the date to know just the right information about you, to be decisive regarding the consequences or result of the date, and whether they want to see you again or not.

6. Don’t just settle

It is okay if you think the person you are on a date with is not right. You don’t have to get into a relationship when you think they aren’t “the one”. It is not necessary that the first meeting between two people lead them into a happy relationship. Sometimes things not working out can give you a great deal of clarity. If you find things skeptical, then don’t settle.

7. Be decisive

When you are going on a first coffee date, being self-decisive is one trait people look for because when you can’t choose anything on the menu and ask the other person to, it gets very awkward and uncomfortable. So here’s a tip: if you are going to the place for the first time and have no idea what it is like, look out for the menu online and choose something that you want to order when you get there. There is no harm in checking out the food on the menu online if you are unfamiliar with the food.

8. Focus

Meeting a person for the first time can get a little apprehensive; you might become very conscious of yourself and the environment. A piece of advice to avoid such a tense situation is to focus on the person you are on a date with rather than the other person. Don’t think too much if the person is going to judge you; listen to yourself. The people around you in a coffee shop can be couples, non-couples, and even first-time date-goers like you. So be cool and concentrate on the date.

9. Be yourself

People go on dates to get to know each other, spend some time and figure out if it is worth another date. So it becomes essential to be yourself and also present yourself decently and honestly. When you go on a date for the first time, it’s okay to be nervous, but this is a coffee date, so be comfortable, polite, and pleasant. If you don’t like it, say it. It’s not always necessary to come out in the most flattering way. Being real matters, as it shows the other person who you are.

10. Giving equal chances

When on a first date, don’t let it go like an interview; a date should be casual and light-hearted rather than an interview or a situation where you are getting one-word answers to your questions. When you don’t know the person and want to know more about them, both should get equal chances to lead the conversation. But if you have already spoken with the person, then go with the flow.

A coffee date is a very easy-going date. They say magical things happen over coffee. Well, it’s true, nothing can and should probably go wrong with a first coffee date. The above tips can help greatly if it is your first coffee date. Also, here is another tip, when it comes to paying the bill, always divide it. It is a very noticeable move. According to Bemakeful, since most players in the dating scene are looking for a serious relationship, starting off 50/50 establishes a sign of respect, a genuine interest and an equal partnership. Furthermore, coffee dates are just the beginning. If it is meant to be, it will be. Otherwise, there will be someone out there for you, and you will definitely find them.

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