Okay, let’s get one thing straight: You don’t want to be a stalker.
It’s not fun and could seem creepy and dangerous, but when you have feelings for someone, you want them to be interested in you in a healthy way.
You have feelings for him, and you want him to be able to reciprocate those feelings. As a result, you want him to be obsessed with you in the sense that he can’t stop thinking about you and the possible future you two could have together.
You want someone who will look at you from every angle of your life to show you a greater appreciation for who you are.
You want someone who makes you feel valued and important, someone who really makes you feel loved. And all kinds of love go hand in hand with mild obsession.
Often love doesn’t really happen by accident. You have to really come out of your shell if you want him to love you and be obsessed with you the way you want him to be.
There are a few things you need to do, a few tricks you need to have up your sleeve if you want him to fall head over heels in love with you. Here are 12 tips you can learn to make your man obsessed with you.
1. Make him wait before replying to his texts
It can be difficult to find the right balance in communication with someone you are interested in. On one hand, you don’t want to appear too eager or like you have been constantly checking your phone for their message. This can come across as desperate or excessive.
On the other hand, you also don’t want the person to think that you are intentionally ignoring them or not interested in talking to them. It’s important to find a middle ground and respond in a timely manner without seeming overly anxious or disinterested.
2. Make sure you are smart and presentable enough to stand out
It’s a common misconception that men are only attracted to physically attractive women and that appearance is the most important factor in a relationship. However, this is not necessarily true. Men can also be attracted to women who are intelligent and knowledgeable about a variety of topics.
While you don’t have to have an advanced degree or be a celebrated expert in a particular field, showing that you have substance and are interested in learning about the things that matter to him can make you a more appealing and interesting person to be with.
By demonstrating that you have depth and are not just focused on superficial appearances, you can deepen your connection and strengthen your relationship.
3. Be kind and sweet to his closest friends
Demonstrate to him that you are a kind and considerate individual is by being friendly and respectful to not only him, but also to all the people you come into contact with. This can help him see that you are an enjoyable person to be around, and that you will be able to easily integrate into his social circle.
By showing that you are able to get along with others and have a pleasant demeanor, you can help ease any concerns he may have about introducing you to his friends and making you a part of his social network.
4. Always radiate self-love and self-confidence
One of the most attractive qualities a person can possess is self-confidence. When you love and value yourself, it shows in your demeanor and can be very appealing to others.
Men are often drawn to women who are confident in themselves and their abilities, as it indicates that they are aware of their worth and are not easily swayed or intimidated by others. By showing him that you are a lovable and confident individual, you give him another reason to appreciate and love you.
Furthermore, it’s important to be true to yourself and not try to be someone you’re not. By standing confidently in your own skin and being proud of who you are, you can strengthen your relationship and foster a deeper connection with him.
5. Choose your arguments wisely
It’s important to remember that it’s okay to disagree with him and to have healthy discussions and debates about various topics. However, there are some arguments that just aren’t worth having, as they can create unnecessary conflict and potentially damage your relationship. In these situations, it’s often best to agree to disagree and move on, rather than getting caught up in an endless and fruitless argument.
By avoiding unnecessary arguments and focusing on finding common ground and compromise, you can strengthen your relationship and avoid driving a wedge between you and him.
6. Put as much effort into the relationship as he does
Remember to compromise with him. If you’re not willing to put in effort and meet him halfway, it can give the impression that you are not interested or invested in the relationship. This can be a turn-off for him and may discourage them from wanting to be with you.
To avoid this, it’s important to show him that you are also willing to work for the relationship and are committed to making it succeed. By demonstrating that you are willing to put in effort and meet him halfway, you can show him that you value the relationship and are committed to making it work.
7. Don’t try to be someone you are not
Men are often able to sense when someone is being insincere or pretending to be someone they’re not, and this can be a major turn-off. To avoid this, it’s best to simply be yourself and let your true personality shine through.
By being honest and genuine, you can build a stronger and more meaningful connection with him, and you’ll be more likely to attract someone who truly appreciates you for who you are.
8. Be honest and direct with what you feel and think
Honesty is one of the most important foundations of a healthy and strong relationship. A man is likely to appreciate and value honesty in his partner, and will not respond well to being misled or deceived.
To foster trust and build a strong connection with your partner, it’s important to be open and honest with him, and encourage him to do the same. By creating a culture of honesty and transparency in your relationship, you can create a foundation of mutual understanding and respect, which will be vital for the long-term success of your relationship.
9. Encourage Him to live life without you to make them more obsessed with you.
You need to give him some space to breathe and reflect.
If you give in to his obsessive desire to always be together, you may crush each other and lose interest. A little space and individuality are always healthy.
Furthermore, you have your own career, obligations, and personal matters. Men do not want to be followed about too much. This will also lead him to become curious in what you are doing and will ask for your time, saving you the trouble of constantly hounding him for companionship.
10. Be flirtatious but have class
Flirting can be a fun and enjoyable way to show someone that you are interested in them, but it’s important to strike a balance and not come across as too desperate or needy. You want to show your interest in a subtle and classy way, without giving the impression that you are overly eager or have no other options.
By keeping your flirting subtle and letting the person know that you are interested, but not being too pushy or clingy, you can increase your chances of success and avoid turning the person off.
11 Be there for him whenever he needs you
One way to show him that you are a dependable and reliable person is by consistently demonstrating your reliability. This means being there for him when he needs you, following through on your commitments, and being there for him in good times and bad.
As you continue to prove your reliability, it’s likely that he will begin to turn to you more often and rely on you for support and guidance. By showing that you are a reliable and trustworthy person, you can strengthen your relationship and build a deeper level of trust and connection with your partner.
12. be genuinely good and treat him with love
At the end of the day, there is nothing more attractive in another person than kindness. And if you are good to him, he will become more and more attached to you and the idea of being with you.
Everyone wants to be loved. Everything we do is intended to win the love of others. Therefore, making him feel loved will win his heart over, allowing him to become more attached to you.
So always make sure to always show appreciation towards him.