When ending a relationship, the best thing to do is cut off contact with your ex. The worst thing you can do is continue being friends. It’s natural to feel awkward when an ex-partner starts reaching out to you after they’ve broken up with you. However, there are ways to respond to an ex asking how you are that don’t involve panic or anxiety.
If your ex is interested in rekindling the romance and doesn’t intend to be just friends, this article will come in handy. If your ex has asked how you are because they want more than friendship again, answer them truthfully but cautiously. Being cautious should not come across as shady or untrustworthy; you must protect your heart from further pain if their intentions aren’t genuine. Being cautious mostly means not revealing too much information in one conversation and letting them know that you’re not ready for anything other than friendship at this point. Keep reading for more advice on how to respond to an ex asking how you are:
Think about what you want from them before you start typing
Before you respond to your ex-partner, think about what you’re hoping to get out of the conversation. Are you hoping to rekindle a romance that’s long dead and buried? Are you hoping to find closure? Are you simply trying to be polite and friendly with your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend? Whatever your intentions are, be honest and upfront with them, so they know where you’re coming from. If they’re interested in rekindling the romance, don’t lead them on and act like you’re open to it. Remember, honesty is always the best policy.
Stay Calm & Don’t Respond Right Away
If your ex-partner has reached out to you out of the blue, it’s natural for you to panic. You might be worried about how to respond to an ex asking how you are, especially if you want to continue being friends with them. In this situation, waiting a few hours to respond will calm you down and help you think more clearly about what you want to say. You don’t want to respond too soon out of panic or anxiety, and you don’t want to respond too late. Some experts recommend responding to a breakup within 24 hours, but you should do whatever feels right.
Keep your reply short and sweet
There’s no need to explain everything that’s been happening in your life since the breakup. However, you do need to be polite and respond truthfully. Don’t lie or lead your ex on by saying everything is going great when you’re struggling with a breakup. Keep your reply short and sweet when responding to an ex asking how you are. Responding like this shows your ex that you’re polite and down to earth but also respect their boundaries and respond appropriately. If your ex asks about your life since the relationship ended, try to avoid talking too much about the past. Focus on the present and future as much as possible.
Be Positive and Polite
When responding to your ex, be positive as much as possible. It’s natural to have feelings of resentment towards your ex, especially if they broke up with you or if the breakup was messy. However, be polite and positive if they ask how you are and if you’re doing well. Don’t complain to your ex about the breakup. Your ex might be hoping you’re single and open to rekindling things, but if you’re not, don’t lead them on or act like you’re open to it. Being positive and polite shows your ex that you’re a mature person who’s not interested in rehashing the old wounds or past or complaining about the breakup. If your ex asks if you’re seeing anyone and you’re single, it’s fine to tell them you’re not seeing anyone, but don’t go into too much detail. It is good practice for healthy living and can help you move on.
Don’t show any hint of resentment.
If your ex broke up with you and you’re not interested in rekindling the romance, don’t fall into the trap of resenting them. This only makes you come across as spiteful and petty. If your ex asks how you are, respond in a way that shows you’re not resentful towards them. You don’t have to be best friends with an ex or pretend that the breakup didn’t happen, but you can be polite and cordial if you want to stay friends with your ex. Again, don’t go into too much detail about the breakup if your ex asks about it-keep the conversation short and sweet, and don’t get into arguments or debates. You want to keep the friendship at a distance and avoid making a huge mistake and falling into the trap of resentment.
The Best Response is no response.
If your ex contacts you continuously, don’t feel like you have to keep replying to their messages. You don’t have to respond to every text message your ex sends you, even if they’re being polite and friendly. If you’re not interested in rekindling the romance, sometimes the best thing to do is to ignore their text messages completely. If you decide to respond to your ex and continue being friends, then be honest with them. Let them know that you’re not interested in rekindling the romance and that you’re interested in just staying friends. Even if they’re genuinely interested in rekindling the romance and want to take things further, you can still be honest with them and tell them that you’re not interested.
If your ex has asked how you are, there’s no need to panic. It could be that they’re simply being friendly, or they could be interested in rekindling the romance. If they’re interested in rekindling the romance, you don’t have to rush into anything. Be honest with them and let them know that you’re not looking for anything serious just yet. If your ex has moved on and is interested in someone new, you don’t have to be jealous or threatened. Be happy for your ex and stay friends with them if you want.